Sleeping on the ax murderers side of the bed

The author of a great new blog I'm reading named Anne asked about the emotional aspects of being in a three way relationship. One of the most important skills to have is communication. Any good poly site talks about this as being a key to success.

Here's an example of this. Eduardo and I had a chance to spend a couple of hours together the other day. He told me that there was something he needed to tell me. He said that sometimes he feels a bit left out when em and I climb into bed and start talking, which can go on for quite some time, since we never seem to run out of things to say. I thought he was just too tired or not that interested in the conversation.

em, being the one that gets the coldest, sleeps in the middle. (I can hang in that spot for a while but soon get overheated and feel slightly trapped.) This leaves me next to the wall and eduardo in what we hilariously refer to as the "ax murderers side," closest to the bedroom door. The problem with this arrangement is that eduardo has trouble hearing out of his right ear. When he lays on his side facing us, his good ear is on the pillow, which makes it really hard for him to hear and/or participate in the conversation.

I told him that I would be happy taking the ax murderers side, although this leaves me vulnerable to being purposely pushed out of bed, (a fun game perpetuated by my two team mates) So we'll give this a try. I love when the three of us are talking, joking and laughing in bed together and now I have important information and a possible solution to make sure that this happens more often. I wouldn't have known this if it hadn't been brought up.

Things have been going really well. We've come out to many more people and have gotten really supportive responses. Some of these people know others in similar circumstances that have worked out for them. I guess we're not alone.

I feel very lucky to be helplessly in love with these two particular people. It's taken me to places I never dreamed of.

Tagged

O.K. I'll play. I'll do everything except tag someone else. It's probably my aversion to chain letters so readers, play if you'd like. I was right next to my bookcase so I grabbed a book from it without looking. After reading what came up, I almost decided to try again but that would be cheating.

Meme about books. Here are the directions:
1. Grab the book closest to you.
2. Open to page 123 and go down to the 5th sentence.
3. Post the text of the next 3 sentences on your blog.
4. Name the book and author.
5. Tag some people.

Here goes:

"Chronic stress and depression also play a role by poisoning the bloodstream with toxic by-products of adrenalin and other 'fight or flight' reactions.
First and foremost therapy is detoxification with a series of 7-10 day fasts with daily colonic irrigations. Therafter a diet of raw fruit and vegitable juices is indicated."

The Tao of Health, Sex and Longevity: A Modern Practical Guide To The Ancient Way
by Daniel P Reid

This was in the "Diet and Nutrition" chapter under the section on Cancer.

Oh well.

When I first realized I had grabbed this book I thought "Hot damn, maybe I'll be writing something from the "Taoist Bedroom Arts" chapter; specifically where they describe the well established practice called "Polishing Mirrors." This relates to two women having sex. It would have been a bit more titilating. (Pun intended)

Stanger than Fiction

I used to go to the movies fairly often. It was nice to escape by myself and get lost in a film for a couple of hours. I don't go too often now. There's not usually anything that hits my hot button. The movie studios seems to crank out so much of the same thing over and over. I dispise horror movies.

I was in the mood for playing hookey from some things that I really should have been doing although, when you own your own business, there's always something that could be done. I looked online for what was playing locally. I saw a movie called "Stanger Than Fiction" I followed the link to a summary and thought it looked interesting and it also fit my schedule.

The movie is about an IRS agent who leads a fairly mundane life. You hear the nararator and soon realize that she (Emma Thompson) is writing this man's story at the same time. At one point this man Harold, played by Will Ferrell, starts to hear the naration himself. He can't figure out where the voice is coming from or when he's going to hear it. He see's a therapist, then a literary professor (Dustin Hoffman.) Harold's life changes in some interesting ways.

Anyway, I enjoyed this movie. The premise is pretty unique and the acting is very good. Worth the price of admission.

Learning and Growing

So I'm finally serious about working the Al-Anon program. Some of the concepts are starting to sink in. I've got, what appears to be, a really great sponsor with a lot of experience. I'm pretty much following her suggestions for working the twelve steps. I'm learning a lot about myself and some of the bullshit ways I relate to myself and others.

I'm all about trying to be straight up with people and encouraging others to be that way with me. But, I keep finding myself doing really bone-headed things relating to this very topic. Sigh! I find solice in the fact that I very soon realize my bone-headedness and try to make ammends right away. There's a whole step or two about making ammends that I'm not directly working on now but I guess you get them when you get them.

I'm looking forward to making some progress in these and other areas. The people in the program give me a lot of hope that I too may learn to live a much saner life.

I decided to come out as part of a three person relationship at one meeting of about 40 people. Everyone seemed very supportive and a few came up to tell me they appreciated my honesty. One man said "I've been in that situation before." I didn't want to know how it turned out for him, so I didn't ask.

Things are good.